The agony of waiting

The waiting in adoption is hard. Once the decision is made to adopt, and a match is made, the wait becomes excruciating. I learned of Mia on April 2nd. Ten days later, I was matched to her with the pre-approval by the CCAA. The waiting has been hard. Really hard. My social worker has finished my homestudy in record time. The draft is done. But, the form we sent to one state I lived in at age 27 was returned as incorrect to release the background check to a third party. I quickly sent the correct form to the state by overnight mail on Tuesday. Hopefully, it will arrive to my agency on Monday and I can submit the homestudy and other necessary paperwork to the USCIS for official approval. The wait for USCIS approval is said to be up to 90 days. My prayer is for Mia to be home before the end of 2011.

Mia is all I can think about. She is in my thoughts when I am awake and when I am asleep. I study every detail of her photos. I wish she could come home right now. A dear friend has said that in many ways adoption parallels pregnancy. There is waiting in pregnancy too. But, the main difference is the level of peace, since in pregnancy the unborn child is with the mother at all times. In adoption, the child is not with the mother until adoption day. This makes waiting, and the sense of peace, much harder. Being in the adoption process for the 3rd time in 10 years reminded me of this. The unrest. The yearning to be with the child. The desire to move all mountains and make time pass quickly until that day comes.

And then, in the wee hours of the morning, as I awoke thinking of Mia, my heart stopped. Some children have been waiting YEARS for the announcement that they now have parents who have chosen them. That they have a mom, or dad, or both to finally call their own. In China alone, there are children on the special focus list who have been waiting since 2009. Two years! And I am rediculously complaining about the agony of waiting 1 month!
It certainly puts things into perspective. The following children are just a few of the nearly 2000 who are currently waiting in China for their parents to find them.








Creating a family through adoption is not for the faint of heart. It is hard. Agonizing at times. But is must be even harder for those children who continue to wait....